As a family member, or friend is nearing the end of their physical life, we often don’t have access to some of the tools we would like. Grief can overwhelm our senses, and we can get stuck in shock, in a reactionary state, in depression, in anger, in confusion, and so much more. In my experience, it can be helpful to have someone outside of the family to facilitate conversations that navigate how to support the individual who is dying, how to support one another, and simply name some of the thing that can be sensitive to name in the face of death. It is not uncommon for families to have conflict over money, over unsaid expectations they have for one another, and when emotions are high family systems can face a lot of stress. These facilitated conversations give everyone a chance to be heard, and create space for families to not only create boundaries, but share their love for one another. I have also had families who wanted to have these important conversations but who wanted their privacy, so instead of leading the conversation, I trained a loved one in how to lead it themselves, and I was told afterwards it was a beautiful experience for them.